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Recommendations Before Marriage

It is recommended to advise the wife before the consummation of
marriage. Anas said " The prophet's companions when giving a woman to
her husband in marriage they ordered her to serve and take care of

The Advice of a father:

Abdullah Ibn Ja'far Ibn Abou Talib advised his daughter by saying:

1.Beware of jealousy, it is the key word of divorce
2.Beware of much blame, it createjs grudge
3.Use kohl (a substance for lining ones eyes) it is the best adornment
4.Water is the best perfume.

The advice of a mother:

A mother also advised her daughter before marriage by saying:

{O dear Daughter you are leaving for a different home and customs.
Nonce can live without marriage. Men and women are created for each
other. Thus you should bear in mind the following ten properties to
lead a happy marital life:

1.Be modest and obedient
2.Let him only see and smell what admires him
3.Do not leave him hungry or disturb him whole sleeping
4.Keep his property and take care of his children
5.Do not disobey him or divulges his secrets

A contemporary mother advising her daughter

{O dear daughter you are going to lead a new life. You will be in the
company of a man who wants you to be for his own. Let him feel that
you are the wife, the mother and everything in his life. You have to
bear in mind that a man is an old child. The least of words can
please him. Let him not feet that he plucked you out of your family.
He also has left his family to lie with you. O dear daughter this is
your present and forthcoming life. Thos is the family you are going
to set up together.}

By Sheikh Mahmoud M.Al-Istambulli